Author

Fredi Nwaka

How Do I Put This?

It’s taken me a while to get my head around writing my memoirs and sharing them with you all, mainly because, how do I put it?

“Who am I? Who wants to read my story?”

It’s not like I’m famous or a big deal!
Who am I kidding… of course I’m a BIG DEAL… [Christopher Martin voice].

We are all big deals and the sooner we realise just what we bring to the World the stronger we become as a community.

Every being plays a role in someone else’s life, no matter how small, so always remember that… actually, let me sing it

“I’m a big deal… and my friends are some big deals too…”

I can go on and on searching for reasons as to why I shouldn’t write my book, but then I found three compelling reasons why I had to do it.

The first being LEGACY… something that is passed on from one generation to another. People have often asked me why I work so tirelessly and the main reason is for those little brats…. Oops! Did I say that…?

My children. I love them unconditionally and would literally die for every one of them. They know this and in writing this book, hopefully, it will allow them into a World which they have seen snapshots of, been a part of and heard many a story about. When I say children I’m talking about all five of them… and before you ask, I can already hear some of you saying “I didn’t know he had five children…did you?”

I have three biological children and two stepchildren. Biological sounds weird innit… like I grew them in a lab or summin lol, but you know what I mean. Three children that I have fathered, however in saying that my two stepchildren are as much my own as my own, and I love them all unconditionally.

Oh, and before you think about it, don’t!
Any of you crazy women out there, (c’mon, we all know at least one or two… ) do not think film director, actor, producer and now author, he must be flossing so let’s pretend little Kaneisha, Tryesha, Endecha or Alopecia is his long lost child. It’s not gonna work. Admittedly, I did my thing when I was younger but I don’t have any unclaimed children out there wondering who their daddy is.

Right, moving on… the second reason is INSPIRATION.

Something we all need in our life at some point. Even the fastest most prestigious car, let’s say a Bentley or a Rolls Royce will eventually run out of petrol no matter how it looks externally, and it will need filling up.

Just as we as individuals will feel demotivated, unsure, lacking zest we all need something to inspire us or encourage us to keep going. I was gonna sing another song then but… anyway.

If this book can inspire even just one of you reading it then my job is done and at the very worst, if you dont enjoy it you can always wrap it up and pass it on this Christmas.

Wait… don’t look at me sideways! Don’t tell me I’m the only person who gets unwanted presents and recycles them, giving them to others with a big smile on my face as if we actually made the effort and thoughtfully went to Supedrug or Boots and bought it ourselves. Exactly! Don’t judge me coz I know some of you do the same. I’ve received some presents over the years that made me wonder, ‘does this person actually like me’, or….”is this another passed-on gift?’ You know those bottles of wine that ‘nobody’ has heard of, nobody drinks and worse still nobody wants or…. hold on, wait for it….

Finally, and for me probably the most important reason, is HEALING.

Many black men are what I would call ‘broken’, some from deep routed trauma that they may not be aware of and others just from how society has allowed them to see themselves.

Many of us have inherited trauma from our ancestors but I don’t wanna go on a whole deep and spiritual one right now as that’s a whole new book, plus I’m still finding me. However, I do know we as a people have carried and continue to carry the burdens, the pains, the struggles and issues passed on from those before us whether or not we chose to accept them. What is important is not what we carry, but how we carry it and even more so if we allow it to define us. I for one will NOT be defined by another’s baggage.

COMING SOON

Fredi aims to have his book available on presale, this December.

If you can’t wait, but want to know more about his life story, visit The Power of a Man for more teasers and an insight into what has made Fredi the man he is today.

My story is one of love, pain, trauma, determination and growth and I hope you all enjoy it.

I want to thank you in advance for taking the time out to walk with me on this journey as each and every one of you who purchases a copy, reads it, recommends it, writes a review, broadcasts it, tweets about it, puts it on Facebook, WhatApp blasts it, tells a friend etc etc … you see where I’m going with this right? lol.

You are all a part of the Nwaka Legacy, and if you think I’m talking about you, then I probably am.

Now go get comfy and enjoy as the BOY…. becomes a man!